Carrie Bradshaw in H[B]D

Going back and forth trying to think of what my first topic would be and read a status from a guy’s POV that states….

“ Ladies always wanna know why they keep a “No Good Man”….Its you ladies! You are what u attract. Change what u send out and what get back might be what you’re looking for. Stop Blaming us (men) cause there is good and bad everything in this life but you have a choice. How y’all say it? ….GIRL BYE! “

The first thing I did was laugh because it’s early as sh!t and this is something on alot of peoples’ minds these days so I wasn’t surprised. But what I immediately thought was this is BULLSH!T…but let me elaborate…..

What about the women who have the best aura? The funny and intelligent women who also happen to have good genes and could be great mothers one day? The ones who are constantly making sacrifices for what they think men should bring to a relationship just so they are not writing someone off? Is it still the Blame Game when these women get done just as dirty as a regular heaux with no future?

When we choose not to deal with a man who’s down and out, or has 3 kids by 3 different women, or maybe there’s no true connection….we are looked at as having standards that are too high. Then when the time comes where we decide to give one of these less than worthy men a chance for the sake of being a better person, we KNOW we shouldn’t have and we’re proven right 9 times out of 10.

All I’m saying is “you are what you attract” does not hold true for everyone, esp. because most people aren’t their true selves until you really get to know them. Good women that put out good vibes still get the short end of the stick sometimes and from my own personal experiences….our right to choose is constantly taken for granted and taken from us even when we come correct.

My advice would be to stop looking for the right person because that never works….but when you come across someone you like, look for the qualities that you lack first. And then decide if you have qualities in yourself that complement that person. I don’t think anyone should settle for less then they deserve, but if you know you are a work-in-progress then work on yourself and stop jumping into relationships you’re not even ready for. Everyone involved will appreciate that.

-Blizzy